Please don’t hold back: Challenge my ideas and opinions. Direct, candid feedback, ideally in the moment or directly after you have seen something you did not appreciate. Even better if you provide a suggestion on how I could improve. I appreciate positive feedback – if there is a valid reason for it.
Ask me anything: I am as transparent as possible. Please understand that I might not be able to share personnel-related and confidential information.
No politics: No cc-ing of me to put pressure on the person you are writing to. Only escalate a conflict once you failed to resolve it yourself.
Work in iterations: If you want my input rather ask me several times in the process instead of coming with the final end product. E.g., start with an outline of your idea, then bring it to 60%, then finalize it – and do problem-solving with me at these stages.
Act like an owner: Do your job. Don’t try to put your monkeys on my shoulder. If you need support or want your ideas challenged, I am always there to help.
Disciplined meeting management: I expect an “Intention” and “Desired Outcome” in the meeting invite; something like the IDOARRT approach might help. When I feel that I cannot contribute to a meeting or that the meeting is poorly prepared, I will mention this to the moderator and ask the person whether I am required, and then I will leave.